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Tricia mccary rhodes

it started with a mattress

6/4/2020

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My 91-year-old mom spends the night with us on occasion, and I’m embarrassed to say we’ve made her sleep on a 25-year-old mattress for far too long so a couple of weeks ago I ordered a new one. But then I made the mistake of taking a good look at that guest room and before I knew it, we were in the middle of a messy renovation. I say we because I dragged poor Joe into it when I started stripping wallpaper and realized what I was up against.

​In short, under the textured, painted paper that has adorned the walls for at least a couple of decades, lay a layer of white paint, and under that, another coat of vinyl wallpaper, circa 1980s floral.  I wish I could blame it on the previous owners, but we are the previous owners.

For days on end Joe and I picked and pulled and sprayed and sanded and scraped and tore those walls up, trying to ready them for a fresh coat of paint. DIY projects bring out the worst in Joe and me, and I’m pretty sure Joe got the bad end of that stick. But in one of my calmer moments, I commented how much easier it would have been had I done it right years ago, adding under my breath, “I feel a blog coming on.” Well, we finally got down to the nubs and after an amateur re-texturing job, were able to paint three walls.  I covered up the fourth with bead board—just didn’t have it in me to tackle it.

In the back of my mind I assumed I’d blog about personal transformation and how covering up or plastering over sinful patterns will only make things that much harder—you get the point.  But then George Floyd was killed by a Minneapolis police officer and our nation started coming apart at the seams.  Bedroom remodels felt inanely irrelevant in view of the collective pain and angst that poured out as people took to the streets to protest systemic racism in city after city. Looters and violence aside, there have been tens of thousands of protesters across the land—people like you and me—peacefully calling for change, almost nonstop.  I have felt undone. 

Bedroom remodels felt inanely irrelevant in view of the collective pain and angst that poured out as people took to the streets to protest systemic racism in city after city. ​

​The thing is, I did not want to write this blog.  Words are cheap these days, and as a white, middle-classed evangelical, the last thing I want is to be one more voice in a sea of platitudes that does nothing to facilitate change.  
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But then there was this wallpaper fiasco and the still, small voice I’ve learned not to ignore, whispering in my heart about a country that has papered over injustice for millennia, and has slathered on short-term fixes like that paint on my wall.  Brenda Salter McNeil, a African American, Christian professor and author, writes that catalytic events like the ones we’ve experienced these past several weeks can force needed shifts, but it isn’t easy, and will always first produce distress and chaos (Roadmap to Reconciliation, published by InterVarsity Press). 
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​I came of age during the civil rights movement, but the reality is that we simply haven’t done enough of the hard work of digging through all the layers, of refusing to stop or give up until racial oppression is no longer palatable

I came of age during the civil rights movement, but the reality is that we simply haven’t done enough of the hard work of digging through all the layers, of refusing to stop or give up until racial oppression is no longer palatable—personally, and in our cities, states and indeed, the world. I guess you could say I am writing this blog as a form of accountability—I do not want this to fade away and die down so I can go back  to a normal that allows a man like George Floyd to be killed as he pleads for breath.
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If you are like me, you find yourself wondering what you can do.  This is such a personal decision, but our pastor offered a simple acronym yesterday that I think we can all embrace.  It is time for a new ERA:
  • EDUCATE: become a learner and teach your children well, determine to LISTEN to the stories of your black friends and neighbors—they have them, if you will just ask. 
  • RELATE: Invest in real relationships with people of different ethnic or cultural backgrounds, the kind where you share meals and playdates with kids, and really get to know each other.
  • ADVOCATE: Use your voice to influence just policies—from your local city council members to your state and national leaders. 
​The lesson of my wallpaper is that there is no quick fix here, that it is going to be painful and difficult and at times it will feel as if we’ll never get the job done.  Yet we must press on.  

​I’ve thought a lot these past few days about the efforts at racial unity I’ve been a part of over the years, particularly within the church.  There have been powerful and meaningful experiences, and yet I do wonder what impact they have had. The lesson of my wallpaper is that there is no quick fix here, that it is going to be painful and difficult and at times it will feel as if we’ll never get the job done.  Yet we must press on.  In all honesty, I am not sure how, or what difference I can make, but I am leaning into prayer like never before, and listening more carefully than ever before, trying to understand what it means to be a broker of God’s kingdom in this moment.  

8 Comments
Keri
6/5/2020 08:11:17 am

Beautifully written and poignant. I

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Daniel Watson
6/5/2020 12:29:26 pm

Praise God for this, Tricia. This is so powerful and convicting. ERA is practical and will make a difference.
Dan W.

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Tricia link
6/7/2020 05:24:19 pm

Thanks so much Keri--bless you.

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Connie Martin
6/5/2020 09:37:13 pm

Tricia your application of a trying time to an extremely severe trying time is beautiful. Thank you
Connie

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Angie Bailey
6/6/2020 12:00:56 pm

Trish, goodness - I’ve been praying - so do I even know my own motives (the cover-up of the wallpaper)- or am I justifying my position - is it insidious - why the unrest - I can’t judge one way or another.

I was brought to John 14:27 “Peace I leave to you; MY peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the WORLD gives.

Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid”

Gods peace surpasses all understanding and an inner rest with the spirit and with our fellowship with our God!

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Tricia link
6/7/2020 05:23:02 pm

Angie, long ago I came to the conclusion that I cannot know even my own motives. But I suspect there is a bit of self in most things, and long for Jesus to be all He wants in and through me. God shakes us up, makes us restless so He can change us and this is what I believe He will do here in this situation. So I keep asking and trusting, and listening and taking whatever small steps of obedience I can. Love you dear one.

Angie Bailey
6/6/2020 11:59:37 am

Trish, goodness - I’ve been praying - so do I even know my own motives (the cover-up of the wallpaper)- or am I justifying my position - is it insidious - why the unrest - I can’t judge one way or another.

I was brought to John 14:27 “Peace I leave to you; MY peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the WORLD gives.

Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid”

Gods peace surpasses all understanding and an inner rest with the spirit and with our fellowship with our God!

All I know to do, is ask for God to search me and know my ways...

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Mary Sue Adams
6/9/2020 03:56:23 am

Beautifully said, Tricia, a powerful motivator for real thought and authentic change. I believe God is working in this nation to wake everyone of us up to what He is asking of us, and we must respond! He will show us what to do and say, if we will just ask Him!

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    Author of 7 books and pastor of Global Leadership Development at All Peoples Church in San Diego, Tricia specializes in helping others experience God’s presence through practicing soul-care.   

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